DEVELOPMENT OF HARMONIOUS PARTNER AMBIVAENCE IN THE PROCESS OF SHORT-TERM CONSULTATIION
Abstract
Satisfaction in a pre-marital partnership is linked with the ability to reconcile positive and negative-destructive contradictions in relationships. An increase in interpersonal contradictions precedes the divorce of a couple. The ambivalence of each side blocks the acceptance of a coherent decision that creates partner ambivalence.
The purpose of the article is to reveal the variability of partnership ambivalence and to exert psychological influence in the group counseling aimed at its reduction, harmonization and decision making by individuals to prolong or terminate the relationship.
Method. The author’s supporting and tolerant model of counseling young people was used with 9 students (5 women and 4 men) with partner ambivalence. Students received psychological help at five meetings, 90 inutes each.
Results. The article demonstrates the effectiveness of harmonization, integration of stressful ambivalent relationships within the author’s model of counseling young people. The group psychological counseling in three stages is considered as a process of harmonization of ambivalence in partnership by means of psychological mechanisms of change, special methods and techniques.
Organizational-communicative conditions of group counseling include the adoption of organizational interaction; construction of consultative relations on the basis of support-tolerant dialogue without confrontation, with manifestations of empathy, the principle of “here and now”, divided responsibility; maintenance of interconnections of basic skills and specific psycho-technicians, abilities (to work with ambivalent schemes, reception of two chairs, semantic presentation of resistance, etc).
Conclusions. Group psychological counseling has enabled young men and young women to analyze, understand and co-ordinate their own partner ambivalence. The described types of partner ambivalence (harmonious, inconsistent, and disharmonious) allow a premarital couple to realize their relationships and to reconcile their own stressful relationships or seek psychological help.
